犯罪心理第七季

他人整理的前六季:http://www.douban.com/group/topic/6808247/01Queen Elizabeth the first said: the past cannot be cured. 02 If it is a miracle, any sort of evidence will answer,but if it is a fact, proof is necessary. ---Mark Twain Scott Adams wrote, nothing inspires forgiveness quite like revenge. 03men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds---Franklin D. RooseveltWe're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.----Orson Welles04Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. ----Kahlil GibranYou may leave school,but it never leaves you----Andy Partridge05From childhood's hour I have not been as others were; I have not seen as others saw.---- Edgar Allan PoeAll things truly wicked start from an innocence.---- Ernest Hemingway06To die is poignantly bitter, but the idea of having to die without having lived is unbearable. ----Erich FrommThe timing of death, like the ending of a story, gives a changed meaning to what preceded it. ----Mary Catherine Bateson07For the man sound of body and serene of mind there is no such thing as bad weather; every day has its beauty, and storms which whip the blood do but make it pulse more vigorously.----George GissingAdversity is like a strong wind. It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are.----Arthur Golden 08Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark.----George Iles Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.----Joseph Campbell09Things do not change; we change.----Henry David ThoreauBrotherhood is the very price and condition of man's survival.----Carlos Pena Romulo ●ω●Beware so long as you live, of judging men by their outward appearance----Jean de La Fontaine10Everyone wants to go to heaven, but no one wants to die.----Joe LouisHermann Hesse wrote: Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.11Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead. ----Benjamin Franklin.There is no greater sorrow than to recall in misery the time when we were happy. ---- Dante.两基友这集太棒了12We do not suffer from the shock of our (experiences, so-called)trauma - but we make out of them just what suits our purposes.---- Alfred AdlerAll the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. ----Henry Ellis13a chinese proverb said: at the gambling tables, there are no fathers and sons. George Augustus Sala said: a gambler with a system, must be to a greater or lesser extent, insane. 14Trust not him that hath once broken faith. ----William Shakespeare (Fr:The Tragedie of Richard the ThirdYou may be deceived if you trust too much,but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ----Frank Crane15Equality may perhaps be a right, but no power on earth can ever turn it into a fact. ----Honore de Balzac.I'm for truth, no matter who tells it. I'm for justice, no matter who it's for or against. ----Malcolm X16Eckhart Tolle said: Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath. Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you. ----H.Jackson Brown.Jr17It was one said that love is giving someone the ability to destroy you, but trusting them not to.For every good reason there is to lie,there is a better reason to tell the truth.----Bo Bennett18Memory is a complicated thing, a relative to truth, but not its twin. ----Barbara Kingsolover Nothing fixes a thing so intensely in the memory as the wish to forget it. ----Michel de Montagine19 MGG导We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. ----Oscar WildeAll that we see or seem. Is but a dream within a dream. ----Edgar Allan Poe20Worse than telling a lie is spending the rest of your life staying true to a lie. ----Robert Brault21Sooner murder an infant in its cradle than nurse unacted desires. ----William BlakeIt's only in love and in murder that we still remain sincere. ----Friedrich Dürrenmatt22The philosopher Voltaire wrote: to the living we owe respect, but to the dead we owe only the truth.Irish statesman and author Edmund Burke once wrote: the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.23/24fear is met destroyed with courage.----James F.Bell Emily: i've always heard every ending is also a beginning, we just don't know it at the time.I'd like to believe that's true. (Mitch Albom)-本季完-Emliy走了最后一集4个人cos刀客特.

去年底开始看《犯罪心理》，我最丧病的时候都是这部剧陪我走过来的，陪我跑步健身，陪我坐地铁，陪我候诊，陪我茫然无措社交障碍逃避现实焦虑抑郁痛哭流涕。我看剧一向没长性，再喜欢的剧也难熬过三四季。没想到这部一直追到了第七季，艰难时刻总会拿出来看看，躲在里面很快就能平静下来。 这剧基本上就是一个“变态集锦”，看着里面比我还要丧病的killer们，我甚至感到了一丝安慰。我病的最厉害的时候，因为旧伤复发和教练离职，格斗训练被迫停了，那段时间整个人焦躁到了顶点，整夜失眠，走在街上眼睛里都是红血丝，一心就盼着有人渣惹我，我好名正言顺的打一架。 里面触动我的情节很多，也经常和咨询师说起其中某句鸡汤名言将我醍醐灌顶。但S7E10很特别，看的极端痛苦，每过几分钟就得要关掉app，做好久心里建设才能重新续上，看了许多天，才看到第24分钟。绝望的剧情像一块低气压黑云压得我喘不过气来，真的没勇气看下去。 一个不入流拳击手，孩子得了白血病，自己间歇性精神分裂，每次出现幻觉就会杀人。他为了给儿子治病，把所有的钱都拿去让教练押他赢，他要为儿子而战，好不容易赢了，结果发现教练其实每次都在地下赌场押他输，而且还靠这个发了财。这次连他的用来给孩子看病的钱都输进去了。于是他跑到地下赌场杀人，紧接着杀了教练。 我和我的心理咨询师讨论为什么这一集给我造成这么大的困扰？我甚至没办法看下去。我们分析了很多，最后觉得也许因为我的性格就是个fighter，所以会对这个人感同身受。 她问我：“是不是觉得这个世界加诸在拳击手身上的东西太不公平了？” 我赶紧辩解，不是的，他犯罪也有他自己的问题，有一些必然性。 离开咨询师后，我审视了一下内心，发现我没说实话，我就是觉得世界对他不公平。这让我痛苦绝望。 过了一周我又去见咨询师，一上来就倒豆子似的说我最近怎么焦虑，怎么跟买我房子的人撕逼，和拳馆撕逼，这几天因为被物业讹钱，又和物业公司撕逼。今天竟然有认识的律师劝我把物业讹的钱交了认栽，一想到只能认栽，我特别愤怒，不甘，无可奈何。但现实就是两害相权取其轻，还是认栽的成本低些。 说着说着，那些生活里的过往就一幕一幕的跳到眼前：2010年家里发大水和装修公司撕的惊天动地；2011年开车撞了暴发户的宝马，最后闹到动手打架，差点报警；2012年因为男友听神经受损婚事受阻和父母抗争；2013年2014年2015年……年年有事，熟悉的人都说我格外倒霉，每年都得出点事。 我也郁闷透了，我为什么这么倒霉？？ 但是此刻，我的那些过往慢慢的和《犯罪心理》里倒霉的拳击手产生了微妙的交集。 生活即是如此，我们穿行人世间，可能会被骗，被伤害，遭受不公正。只不过并非每个人都会像我和拳击手一样，选择杀敌一千，自损八百这么激烈的方式打回去。 我们从来不接受吃亏受欺负，尤其不能忍受不公正！所以我们将每次受挫都发展成一场声势浩大的战斗！这就是为什么别人觉得我格外倒霉的原因了。 拳击手一直无法接受儿子得白血病这个事实，无论多努力都没办法救儿子，打再多的比赛，拿再多的钱回来，都无法改变这个事实。他没做错什么，可他就是遇到了如此让人绝望的事，他用一种疯狂绝望的方式向命运挥拳，最后还是失败。孩子死了，他也因为杀人进监狱。 流着泪看完了这集美剧的那一刻，我无比难受，五味杂陈。 大夫说儿子的时间不多了。拳击手却总对孩子说，你是一个斗士，不能说死，不能失败，你要一拳击到病魔！你不会有事。 hotch跟拳击手说，你儿子快死了，他不怕死，他怕让他父亲失望。他此刻需要他的父亲，不是拳击手，不是教练。他能不能平静的离去，就看你跟他说什么了。 跟儿子的最后一面，拳击手说今天我输了比赛，谁都不能总赢，有时候无论多努力，就是赢不了。而这时候 I let go.这不意味着你逃走或者失败，这只是你认识到it's time to let go and move on. 刚看完这里我觉得无力，觉得绝望，觉得愤怒，觉得命运不公！what the fuck！ 但经历了许多混乱焦虑和思考的一周后，跟咨询师说这段话的我泣不成声，我就像拳击手那个死去的儿子，这段话是对我说的，我感到了平静。 有个特别好的朋友常批评我对自己太苛责，一点微小的失败和受挫都能将我击溃，所以我时刻亮着獠牙，时刻准备战斗，时刻手持武器，准备挥向自己和周围。 人活着不可能完美，不可能不受伤害，不被欺负，公平正义更不完美，但是如果你抓着不放，不惜成本的fight back，不能move on，很可能会得不偿失，玉石俱焚。长大变老可能也是和生活妥协的一个过程，学会let it go。 随着时间流逝，慢慢变得没那么执着，没那么苛责。斗士也慢慢变老，肌肉松弛，皱纹深刻，一脸幸福的糊涂相，愿每一个斗士和罪人都在漫长的走向迟暮的日子里找到属于自己的意义，与生活和解，与自己和解。 生活不只是一场战斗，不需要对所有事都fight back。平静也是一种对抗。 谢谢《犯罪心理》为我补上了这一课。

看《犯罪心理》有7个年头了，从大一到现在。每一集都讲述着不同的故事，也串起了团队里各个成员的经历。        这是一个精英团队，能称之为精英，专业能力和素养毋庸置疑。长年累月对着血腥场面与人性扭曲的罪犯，随call随到办案的差事，不是一般人能经受的了。这个团队有其精妙之处，总结的一下这个好团队的特点：        各有所长，各善其事，优势互补，能无缝沟通，对彼此互相信任，统一步调；专业为本，不求名利，惩恶扬善的天然单纯的就业动机，无职业发展空间引起的复杂人际关系；一个统筹全局，充分信任成员，关怀下属，给予充分发挥空间的领导者。以上特点有些理想化了，而且要使这个团队再面对重重困难和自身受到创伤仍能保持队形，迅速恢复元气，还有更重要的因素。这个很有借鉴意义：        1.队里有行为异于常人，为团队创造调侃条件的异类         2.有2个以上言谈幽默，调和沉闷枯燥气氛的活宝         3.形体和性格较为弱势，俗话说就是好欺负的天然萌         4.有眼界广，能创造无限话题的话痨 丰富多彩，愉悦的氛围就是这么产生的。        对该剧体会最深的，该是可怜之人必有可恨之处，同样，可恨之人亦有可怜之实吧。绝大部分罪犯的心理扭曲源于不幸的家庭造成的童年阴影以及没有及时有效的心理疏导，家庭矛盾中伤得最深的往往是孩子。生理的缺陷会造成心理的缺陷，而心理的缺陷同样会给生理造成伤害，负面情绪需要合理疏导，以免形成恶性循环。每一个人都带着伤口，即使是精英之师，无法帮助他人愈合，也无论如何都不要往别人伤口上撒一把盐。